Let’s face it. There’s no guidebook for how you should celebrate your angel or handle your grief after a pregnancy or infant loss. So many grieving parents suffer in silence because our experience is so uncomfortable to talk about with other people. Despite how uneasy our grief makes others feel, it’s still our truth.
When I tried to find ways to celebrate my own angel, cope with my grief, and just feel better, all I could find were ways to honor deceased loved ones like parents or older children with traditions I hadn’t gotten to experience yet.
Instead of holding on to memories and celebrating life, we’re left with hopes of what could have been and the pain of what we’ll never get with our tiny, precious angels. Many of the grief articles I found after my loss encouraged doing things that the deceased loved one liked – such as cooking their favorite meal or visiting their favorite place to remember them.
The unfortunate truth…
Moms who experienced pregnancy and infant loss aren’t awarded those memories, so we have to be creative and open-minded in the ways that we celebrate the life of our angel. One of my greatest fears was to forget my son as years went by, so making sure I celebrate him as often as I can is extremely important to me. That’s why I created Parents of an Angel – to honor my own son and show grieving moms (and dads) that it’s okay to do the same.
I also realize that moms and dads don’t always stay together after loss. Some items on this list can be done solo, and some can be done with a spouse. We’re all about inclusivity here, so there’s something for everyone.
Sometimes, celebrating your angel means taking care of yourself in the process. This list is part celebrate baby and part take care of mommy (and daddy).
In this free download, you’ll find several categories that organize the things that you can do to celebrate your angel and heal from your loss. My top 5 favorite things from the list are:
- Go to the grocery store or local bakery on your angel’s birthday. Pay for another child’s cake and leave a birthday card explaining why you’re doing this in honor of your angel.
- Surprise someone with a gift or flowers on your angel’s birthday. Even though your angel isn’t here to receive a birthday gift, use this day to give a gift to someone in your support circle.
- Write in a journal or make journaling part of a daily routine.
- When you have a good day, write about it and keep it in a shadow box to read when you have a bad day.
- Meditate & burn your favorite essential oil in a really cool diffuser.
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