On the second Sunday in May, the world stops to honor and celebrate moms around the world. Families splurge on cards, flowers, gifts, fancy dinners, and lavish meals to show the motherly figures in their lives how much they are loved. Mother’s Day for grieving mothers looks a little different.
The first Mother’s Day after my son died was so difficult. I couldn’t even get out the bed. I wish I could tell you that Mother’s Day gets easier with time, but that wasn’t the case with me. Some years are better than others, but it hasn’t been a steady uphill battle.
Mother’s Day for grieving mothers is unique because the rest of the world doesn’t immediately include us in the motherhood category. I went looking for a greeting card for a friend who lost her baby last fall. In a store dedicated to greeting cards and gifts, I found three cards written for grieving moms. THREE.
What are we supposed to do on Mother’s Day when it feels like the world doesn’t actively acknowledge us? Thinking back to my first Mother’s Day without my son, I didn’t find too many resources to help me. This year, I’m sharing a collection of stories and resources that should help you get through Mother’s Day as a grieving mother.
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Mother’s Day as a Grieving Mother
Since there’s no roadmap for us to navigate the feelings that come with Mother’s Day, these articles will give you some ideas to celebrate, remember your angel, and find support.
Spiritual Support on Mother’s Day
If there’s one thing I know to always hold true, it’s that God will be present when we need him most.
Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.Isaiah 41:10 NKJV
Mother’s Day Resources for Grieving Mothers
Here are some book suggestions to look at and podcast episodes to listen to that address pregnancy loss, spiritual healing, and mental health.
20 Books for Grieving Mothers
Inside Look at Heartache, Healing, & Hope
Miscarriage | A&M The Relationship Series Podcast
Healing After Miscarriage and Pregnancy Loss | Be Well, Sis, The Podcast
Walking With God Through the Pain of Losing a Child | Yoked Podcast
The best piece of advice that I ever received about getting through Mother’s Day is to just do whatever makes me comfortable. Not whatever makes me happy, just comfortable. I stopped putting pressure on myself to have a joy-filled day. I don’t have to force myself to be happy.
Honestly, there’s no secret formula to making Mother’s Day any easier. After 5 years, I finally found what works for me, which is quality time with my husband and immediate family at home. I still have moments throughout the day where I cry for some time.